Ever have somebody get really really mad at you over something little….or at least something that seems a little to you? I think we all have, and one of the biggest reasons for this is because we’re all Unique Individuals! We all have our own things that are sensitive or are more touchy. We also all have different sets of hopes and will have different desired outcomes.
Have you ever let one of these people in your life….or maybe someone wasn’t in your life but somebody that had some kind of control over what you did or didn’t do or did or didn’t receive…. did you ever let them get you so frustrated that you couldn’t see straight ? Let me share something with you that will completely change the way you interact with other people.
The beauty of you being YOU, means that you get to CHOOSE how you feel about whatever might come your way and this is true for whoever else you might interact with also! So maybe it’s having to cancel or change plans last minute with a girlfriend and she is really upset with you. You have to know that this…. is HER response and that it’s okay for her to respond HOWEVER she needs to. That doesn’t mean that you have to react to her response. However, you can respond genuinely.
I highly recommend that you don’t let someone else’s rocked emotions, rock your own. A great example of this is something I’m dealing with right now. I’ve recently wrote a book titled “Thank you and f*** you” it’s essentially A Memoir of my rough and devastating life! I wrote letters to all of the impactful people that helped shape my life. This of course includes my mother, who did not and she is not reacting or responding very well at all.
This is really difficult for me because I love my mom with all of my heart and I wish she would respond better…. however, I don’t get to choose how she responds. Instead I get to make a choice of suffering because my mom is responding her own way, in a way that I don’t necessarily prefer or I can just allow her to have her own reaction and response and just let it be that.
The purpose for this article is to let each and every one of you, know that you too have this power over yourself! The power to control your responses and your reactions, no matter how absurd somebody else’s response and or reaction might be.
Remember, this is theirs, they own those emotions; they own the feelings not you….. They own the reaction, they only own their response. YOU do NOT ….What you DO own is your reaction and your response to whatever it might be.
My suggestion is: “Own your s*** and let everyone else on their s***”. This isn’t to say you should disregard there reactions. I actually will would never suggest someone to react to anything. I like the word respond much better because that gives us a chance to calm down, reclaim our emotions if we allowed the other person to tip them and then we can respond in a much better, much healthier Manor.
I encourage responding calmly to continue the relationship in a much more positive direction. So its your choice but at least, now you know….. YOU get to control your reactions and responses and whoever it is that you are interacting with…… gets to choose and control their response and their reaction.
REMEMBER you are in zero and I mean no way responsible for the way that they choose to react. So, the next time you interact with someone and it doesn’t go as smooth as you wanted it to, remember everything you’ve read in this article; because it’s not always all on you unless it’s your own s*** remember everyone has their own s***.
Writen by Tineka Dawn